Response to NC Gay Marriage Issue

I wrote a response today to this article about the NC ban on gay marriage.

http://www.christianpost.com/news/gay-rights-activists-christian-leaders-react-to-nc-ban-on-gay-marriage-74733/


The protection of the definition of the institution of marriage, as designated by God, has nothing to do with hate or oppression, with segregation or lack of tolerance; but with truth and untruth. And if you believe the bible is the living word of God, then you have to believe in His definition of marriage as truth, period. The bible is explicit about what marriage is and is not. And while many may not believe in God or His word, the fact remains that our country was founded on the basis of religious freedom and in God, regardless of where our country now stands on this principle. Whether you believe in God, the bible or what the bible says about marriage or not does not negate the truth of it. And while the men that founded this great nation were fallible and prone to wander from the truths of their principles, just as every man (person) in history has/does/is doing, aside from Jesus Christ, their hearts were set toward truth in God and the institution of marriage as a sacred, life-long covenant between a man and a woman.

I grew up being taught that the women's liberation movement was a good thing, that it brought freedom and equality from the oppression of men; a freedom long overdue. My generation was taught that being a stay at home mother was all but slavery; that we should set our sights on higher things. And we did. We set our sights on higher education, equal pay for equal work, and even freedom from the traditional institution of marriage, claiming our rights to sexual equality.

And now, as we find ourselves at least two generations into this new way of thinking, something is amiss. We have all but destroyed the institution of marriage with divorce, pre-marital sex and abortion; we've traded the privilege of making love within the boundaries of a covenant relationship for internet porn, phone sex, and friends with benefits, along with a huge surge in homosexual experimentation, sexual abuse and rape, and overall immorality. But most of all, we women have given up our place as leaders in the home for the right to be as men are; with the majority of us struggling to be both, caught between our jobs and their endless demands and responsibilities and our children, who are stuck all but raising themselves.

See, the idea that being a wife and mother was oppressive was a counterfeit truth planted by Satan. Satan has made it a point to counterfeit every truth established in the bible, and present it as another option for society to embrace, with just enough truth in it to lead us astray, and society accepts it and calls it truth because it ingratiates the desires of our flesh and are easier to live by than the truth. And as history crawls ever closer to the end of this age, our society adopts more and more of these counterfeits as the norm under the guise of tolerance, equality and peace.

The sad reality is, while we were being taught to be all we could be, no one was teaching us how to be mothers and wives. But even sadder, the biblical truth about why we (women) were created, what our purpose is and the fullness of what marriage was designed to be has fallen away to progress. When I finally gained a biblical understanding of marriage (after my 3rd major relationship had come and gone) I actually was angry, angry that the truth of the privilege of being a wife and mother really was never spoken of. The truth says women were created to be man's helper (not to rise up and replace him). And sex was reserved to be enjoyed only after a life-long covenant was established between a man and a woman. The true pleasure of sex was intended to join a man and a woman physically, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually. Wives were called to submit to their husbands and husbands to treat their wives as their own flesh. There were/are bad marriages; there are abusive spouses, always have been. But the solution to those was never intended to be solved through divorce, but through prayer and fasting and living as a Godly example to the other. By choosing to look to ourselves for the solution to our problems (through divorce), we relinquished our rights to God's power to implement His solutions. Satan successfully convinced Eve and Adam that God was "keeping" knowledge from them and that they could be equal to Him. What was the reality? They traded a perfect life free of hard labor, self-consciousness; a life of  innocence and peace for a life burdened by sin and death.

So what have we gained by trading our "oppression" for "freedom"? The freedom to feel unloved; many of us fatherless, abandoned, abused, neglected? The freedom to have empty, disconnected sex with anyone we want? The freedom to try to support ourselves and our children financially, spiritually and emotionally by ourselves? We have the freedom of exchanging a life-long bond with someone with disposable relationships? The freedom to live empty, broken, unfulfilled lives? Sounds an awful lot like slavery to me. The truth is that when society as a whole had adopted and lived by many of God's commandments, the instances of divorce and immorality were the rarity, not the norm. Those ways of living were oppressed for a reason; because they are detrimental to our physical, spiritual and emotional health as people. Virtue, honor, self-respect, dignity and truth were exalted in their rightful place. What is our society like now, full of disconnected, emotionally crippled, angry, self-entitled people? (I am generalizing).

This was a long, roundabout way of coming to this - gays and lesbians can have a union equal to marriage that isn't defined as marriage. If we can pass a law to expand the definition of marriage, we can create a law that gives those unions partner rights that does not affect the institution of marriage. Ah, but that would not be simple enough. And that's not Satan's plan. Doing that does not serve his agenda. I stand with the word of God on the gay/lesbian issue - but I do not hate anyone. Any "Christian" who speaks hate and fear is as counterfeit to Christianity as Satan is. There is no gay-bashing, no beatings or afflictions, no killing - only the desire to speak truth and life to all. I have as much or more of a problem with the heterosexual sexual immorality (pre-marital sex) than I do homosexual immorality, there's no difference, it all leads to death; and it's hypocritical for straight Christians who do not live by this to single out gays and lesbians. But it is not wrong for a Christian to speak out against the defilement of an institution established by God and agreed with by our own law. Not speaking out is the true crime.